Advent 2012: Setting Captives Free
…from marital strife to marital harmony
Justin watched Sesame Street on the TV while Megan finished nursing the baby. As she was putting Hannah back in her bassinet, there was a knock on her hospital room door.
“Come in,” Megan said.
“Excuse me, I’m looking for Mrs. Jacobs,” said the visitor.
“I’m Megan Jacobs,” she explained.
“Oh, I think I got the wrong room number,” the visitor said, looking at her notes. “I’m looking for a Carol Jacobs.”
“Wait, Carol’s my mother-in-law. Is she in the hospital too?” Megan asked. “Who are you?” she added.
“I’m sorry. I’m Anita Stroud. I’m a reporter for the Post and was told this was Mrs. Jacob’s room, which I guess it is, but just the wrong Mrs. Jacob’s,” she explained with a nervous laugh. “Apparently, your mother-in-law was admitted this morning about the time they found her husband dead in their home. I was just hoping to ask her a couple of questions.”
Megan gasped and fell back on the bed. She looked over at Justin who was still glued to the TV.
“Mrs. Jacobs…Megan, is it? I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to upset you. I’ll just see myself out,” the reporter said and exited the room quickly.
Megan’s hands were shaking when she picked up her cell phone to call Jim.
In another wing of the hospital, Jim and his mother were still trying to deal with the news of his dad’s suicide. Both were silently staring out the window when Jim’s phone vibrated in his pocket. Jim saw that it was Megan calling.
“Megan, I can’t talk right now, I’m at the hospital with mom,” Jim said abruptly, and started to hang up.
“No, wait, I know,” Megan answered. “I’m in the hospital too. I just heard about your dad.”
“Why are you at the hospital? We just heard the news a couple of minutes ago; how did you get here so fast?” Jim said.
“I’ve been here since early this morning. I had the baby,” Megan said. Jim didn’t respond. “Jim, are you still there?”
“I’m here. Did you just say you had the baby?” He immediately started down the hall toward the maternity ward. “Why didn’t you call me?” he demanded.
“I did, but you didn’t answer,” she replied.
“Is everything okay? Is the baby…” Jim hesitated.
“She’s fine, I’m fine too, not that you care. But your dad; what happened?” Megan said.
“Never mind that right now. What room number are you in? I’m on my way.”
Where there is strife, there is pride, but wisdom is found in those who take advice. Proverbs 13:10
Advent Application: A crisis can either bring people closer together or it can do just the opposite. There was already strife in Jim and Megan’s marriage. They were on the brink of divorce, caused mainly by Jim’s anger and addictions, but in reality, the true cause was simply pride. When we allow our pride to rule our behavior, we become more concerned with having our own way than we are having true reconciliation. But the Proverb tells us that if we humble ourselves and take the godly advise of others, we are found wise. Time will tell if Jim and Megan are willing to check their pride at the door and humble themselves and seek out the advise of a good marriage counselor or pastor.
Mary and Joseph must have experienced strife in their relationship when Mary ended up pregnant before tying the knot. Matthew 1:19 states that Joseph was planning on divorcing her quietly. But thankfully, both of them humbled themselves and were willing to take the advice of God’s messengers and move forward with God’s plan for their lives. When we follow godly advise, we find true wisdom.
If your marriage is on the rocks, seek godly advice. Call your pastor or Christian marriage counselor and gain the wisdom that can help end the strife in your marriage. And if your not currently experiencing marital strife, thank God for blessing your marriage. Write a love letter to your spouse telling them how thankful you are to have them in your life.
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